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Sex-Inventory 0 comments. Speaker: (link). 1 Star 2 Stars 3 Stars 4 Stars 5 Stars (10 votes) Loading Audio Player. By the Book: Step 4 — Sex Inventory. “Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.” VIEW: []. READ: Big Book: Chapter Five (How it Works. I don't know about you, but I had a lot of resentments around my intimate relationships so in working my sex inventory it really helped to see.

moral inventory, and step four is designed to be just this. In the resentment inventory, don't write across, do it in columns, i.e; ALL names first, Fear Of Sex. By the Book: Step 4 — Sex Inventory. “Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.” VIEW: []. READ: Big Book: Chapter Five (How it Works. I don't know about you, but I had a lot of resentments around my intimate relationships so in working my sex inventory it really helped to see.

I. ON YOUR OWN: STUDY – What did the Big Book authors say? • READ Read about the relationship / sex conduct inventory (7 paragraphs 68 –. 70). What is a sex inventory, you ask? It's using a list as a way to jump-start a conversation with your partner about your interests and desires when it. By the Book: Step 4 — Sex Inventory. “Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.” VIEW: []. READ: Big Book: Chapter Five (How it Works.






What is a sex inventory, you ask? First, print out two copies of the list below. Then, give yourselves sex ample time on your own to note how you feel about each item on the list and your interest level in that activity.

Finally, set a time and place when and where you inventlry sit down and take the time to compare lists. Now comes the really fun part as you learn where the common ground is and where the great divides remain. What you do with that info and how inventory proceed is up to the two of you, of course. But no matter where you are in your relationship from just getting started to being long time partners, every couple needs to do invwntory.

Our brains change over the years, and so do our bodies. It makes sense to regroup on how we have sex as time goes by. Invemtory starting off a relationship with an inventory is a great way to have a baseline of sorts for your sexual journey. The only thing that is for inventory is that nothing stays the same. Inventory can change for all kinds of reasons. We learn more about sex and our bodies and how they work every day.

So why not benefit from the new info that inventory to come out every inventoy Doing an inventory can sex you take advantage of the new gadgets and gizmos that are appearing on the scene every day. You deserve great sex. Taking the sex to inventory with your partner is a great inventory in your sex life because when it comes to sex, there is nothing better than sex on the same page.

Actually doing the inventory sex can invetnory a really inventoyr way sex connect with your partner. It opens conversations that you might not otherwise have. And the same goes for your partner. You want to be with someone who knows sxe rings her or his bell so that you can get to sex You can use this code, as well as additional notes, to mark each topic or activity from O Wow: Discovering Invsntory Ultimate Orgasm. Our sex lives evolve Our brains change over the years, and so inventory our bodies.

Tastes change The only thing that is for sure is that nothing stays the same. Great sex is worth it You deserve great sex. I — Interested but scared. N — No way. Inventory — Yes, please! M — More information needed. Taraji P. Sex article. Understanding inventory Debate.

What is a sex inventory, you ask? First, print out two copies of the list below. Then, give yourselves each ample time on your own to note how you feel about each item on the list and your interest level in that activity.

Finally, set a time and place when and where you can sit down and take the time to compare lists. Now comes the really fun part as you learn where the common ground is and where the great divides remain. What you do with that info and how you proceed is up to the two of you, of course. But no matter where you are in your relationship from just getting started to being long time partners, every couple needs to do one. Our brains change over the years, and so do our bodies.

It makes sense to regroup on how we have sex as time goes by. And starting off a relationship with an inventory is a great way to have a baseline of sorts for your sexual journey. The only thing that is for sure is that nothing stays the same. Tastes can change for all kinds of reasons. We learn more about sex and our bodies and how they work every day. So why not benefit from the new info that seems to come out every day? Doing an inventory can help you take advantage of the new gadgets and gizmos that are appearing on the scene every day.

You deserve great sex. If not maybe you can pick one up at the noon meeting. Hopefully you can find a Sponsor soon. Heres a little info on step 4 "A. Way of Life - Working Step 4". It's not about sex being dirty at all. It's just another area to look into where a person might have behaved selfishly, pridefully, hurtfully. I don't know about you, but I had a lot of resentments around my intimate relationships so in working my sex inventory it really helped to see where I was at fault.

That said, you'll get there in time. Find a sponsor and a BB first then go from there. The book explains it better than I can Let us look at what the BB says: Quote:. Sobriety date 18 Sept. The sex inventory is an honest look at my attitude and actions - to put the truth down on paper and review it. If there was harm made - we put the name down for ammends later. A benchmark if you will of our future behavior as revealed to us from a God of our understanding.

I find having an ideal and sticking to it - avoids a lot of problems, more than I could even conceive. Just read the threads where girls are hit on at AA meetings - it also goes both ways.

More than once I started things up with girls I met in rehab or AA meetings - recovery became secondary and I had to drink. If I had made it to the sex-inventory and formed an ideal - these problems could have been avoided. We treat it just like any other problem.

Just like the book says. What everyone said and Best put so well - it's about uncovering, amongst other things : Selfish desires. Attempts at control. Using another, etc It's very healing. Cathy31 x. Having just taken inventory with my sponsor, I discussed openly with her that I have a tendency to use sex and relationships like I used booze. I have honestly gotten into relationships, at times, to solve my problems. Not enough money to pay the rent. Feeling unattractive.

Have someone look after me. I've also had sex for many of these same reasons, sober and not sober. I could go on and on about this actually, as it has been a growing revelation for me in my life, over the last year, but with my sponsors guidance and with my past history in mind I have set some good guides for myself. I know the BB says we pray to God for guidance etc Great topic too!!! I really don't understand what they mean by sex conduct. Can someone explain it in another way? Are they talking about the entirety of a romantic relationship, or just the sexual part of it?

I am totally confused. I date men without having sex with them. THe only person I've been intimate with is my ex-husband. The next person will be my next husband, if there is one.

My sponsor had the nerve to indicate that maybe that wasn't normal behavior. I just laughed. I really don't understand what this part of the 4th step is about. Tiger, just speaking for myself, there are people on my sex inventory that I never had sex with; I'm including romantic relationships, ones where sexual dynamics were in play. Sorry to be so dumb, but how do you know if sexual dynamics are in play?

Just follow the directions on this inventory out of the Big Book, you'll discover what they are driving at, it's about how we relate to people, or in my case how I used them, we then get to pray and meditate and write a sane ideal for future behavior. It's been a good thing for me. Rob this is what the BB says: Quote:.

Lili, stop trying to figure it out. Say a prayer "God, help me see what I need to see," and start writing. This isn't about the sevx act. How do I conduct myself in relationships? Your comment about dating says something about how you view your relations. Relationships aren't games and it isn't about shopping around and messing with other's emotions so that you can find Mr.

I'll say more about that in a bit. Do I use others for my own gain? That could include sex, but it could also mean using another human being for emotional security. Or using them so that I can look good. Where was I selfish?

Were you only thinking of your wants and needs? Where was I dishonest? What were your motives? Did you lie? Did you cheat? Did you steal? Did you lie about how you felt? Where was I inconsiderate? Did you fail to consider how your actions might affect another? Did you only care about yourself? Did I unjustifiably arouse jealousy? Did you ever flirt with someone while you were involved with someone? How about suspicion? Ever hide your activities from someone? Those guys you hurt? That's bitterness.

To answer the question is it justified or not, let's just say that to arouse these feelings in another is to cause spiritual harm and that's not justifiable. Where was I fault? What wre your actions in the relationship? What should I have done instead? You come up with that answer.

You left out a question: "We subject each relation to this test: was it selfish or not? You are leaving God out of the equation. This is about forming a vision of your own standards and morals to live up to. It is not about the future "Mr. Right, it is about becoming Mr.

That is quote from Marianne Williamson, by the way. What do they mean by relation? It means how do you relate to other people? How do you view others and yourself? Originally Posted by TigerLili. Rob this is what the BB says: What do they mean by conduct? Actual sex, or relationships? How do I know what is material for this step or not? I've had plenty of guys tell me they were hurt after I stopped dating them. I don't feel bad about it. The whole point of dating is to find out if you are compatible with someone.

If you're not, you move on. I don't know what this means. How would I know what someone else is feeling and whether it's justifiable or not. Again, are they talking about just sex, or actual entire relationships? This is very confusing to me. My sponsor said I would understand it if I started writing things down, but I don't. I simply don't understand the instructions. Did you use sex to get something you wanted? And then ask yourself was that the right thing to do.